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September 25, 2025
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Have you been in a position during a job interview where you start having second thoughts about something you just said? In this scenario, job interviews can feel like high-stakes conversations where every word matters. What you say—and just as importantly, what you avoid saying—can influence whether you get hired or not.
Many candidates prepare for challenging interview questions, but fewer think about the phrases and comments that could harm their chances. This comprehensive guide walks through what to say and not to say in an interview, supported with examples, tips, and real-life interview prep insight. By the end, you’ll feel more confident about how to communicate effectively and leave a strong impression.
The hiring manager isn’t just listening for your qualifications; they’re reading between the lines. First impressions are cognitive shortcuts. This means, in the first few minutes of the meeting, interviewers will create a mental model of your personality, preparation, self-awareness, and fitness for the role. With this in mind, your answers can either reinforce that idea or derail it.
How good you are at “reading the room” will make or break your performance during the interview. At the start of the conversation, pay attention to the interviewer’s tone and body language; a quick scan helps: are they leaning in, smiling, adding small talk? Or staying neutral and time-bound? Start slightly formal, then mirror their energy to help you decide whether a lighthearted comment will build rapport or fall flat.
Even if a light joke doesn’t hit the spot, don’t double down or let this hurt your performance. Adapt based on their cues or shift back to concise, value-driven language if in doubt. Remember, the goal isn’t to be funny; it’s to be remembered for clarity and relevance.
Plenty of phrases can instantly set off alarm bells for employers. Below are some of the most common “don’ts” and how to fix them on the spot.
Why it hurts: Speaking poorly about a former boss or company is always a no-go. Even if your experience was genuinely bad, complaining signals blame, immaturity, and a lack of professionalism.
Solution: Instead, reframe negative experiences as growth opportunities that make you more suitable for the current role you’re applying for.
Example: Rather than saying, “my last manager was difficult,” shift to, “I learned a lot about handling conflict and improving communication in my previous role.”
Why it hurts: Admitting that you “don’t know” without even trying shows a lack of preparation and problem-solving ability. It basically shuts down the conversation, giving the impression that you hadn’t done your homework.
Solution: A more effective approach to unprepared answers is to buy a moment by pausing, acknowledging the question, and thinking aloud. By doing so, you’ll show critical thinking and creativity regardless of your expertise on the matter or whether you have a ready-made answer.
Example: “That’s a great question. Let me take a moment to consider it (use this time to make a structured attempt or ask clarifying questions). Based on my experience, I would approach it by…”
Why it hurts: Recruiters ask about items already on your resume because they want details. Simply pointing them back to the page sounds dismissive and uninterested, even if your answer doesn’t come from those places.
Solution: Overall, it’s always better to expand beyond the resume items or portfolio and provide a thorough, compelling answer on the spot when you have the interviewer’s complete attention.
Example: “Yes, I listed that project on my resume, but here’s how it really went, the way it challenged me, and what I learned from it…”
Why it hurts: While compensation matters, bringing it up early makes it look like money is your only motivation or that you’re only interested in “what’s in it for you” before exposing your value to the company.
Solution: Let the employer bring up pay first, or wait until you advance further in the selection process. On the other hand, if you want to use this aspect to show interest and commitment to your application, be sure to frame it the right way.
Example (in case the topic hasn’t been addressed): “I’m excited about the role. Once we establish how my expertise aligns with the job specifications, can we discuss the compensation and benefits? Just to make sure our expectations align.
Why it hurts: High-driven individuals are valued in today’s labor market; nevertheless, be careful how you express your initiative and self-motivation. Phrases like “I pursue my objectives despite my team” can be misunderstood and ultimately raise culture fit concerns or reflect poor team spirit.
Solution: Instead, show drive without stepping on others, or even better, showcase your leadership skills in pursuit of common goals.
Example: “I keep teams focused on clear outcomes, and when priorities conflict, I facilitate alignment so we hit the target together.”
Why it hurts: Phrases like “I know I don’t have much experience” only draw attention to weaknesses. Fresh grads and entry-level applicants often undersell or pre-disqualify themselves this way, and instead of showing humbleness or authenticity, it backfires as interviewers want confidence, not apologies.
Solution: Instead, focus on transferable expertise, soft skills, relevant college projects, or any kind of evidence that highlights you have the foundation to perform at a high level.
Example: “While I’m new to B2B, I’ve run go-to-market launches in B2C with X outcomes, and the underlying skills—segmentation, messaging, analytics—map well here.”
Why it hurts: We’ve all thought at least once to answer the “what’s your weakness?” question with a “My weakness is perfectionism,” “I work too hard,” or other murky claims; truth be told, they’re generic and interviewers see through these, or even worse, can misinterpret them.
Imagine trying to express that you’re authentic because you don’t promise things you can’t deliver, and that it comes out wrong or is understood as not ambitious enough. Not cool, right?
Solution: Be sure not to improvise with vague lines, and stick to well-thought-out answers that reflect your strengths—or areas of improvement—clearly.
Example: “I can over-index on hands-on work. Lately, I’ve been delegating earlier and using weekly checkpoints to keep deliverables on track.”
Why it hurts: Ending the interview with “no, I don’t have any questions” suggests low or poor prep or disinterest. You wouldn’t want to mess up all the effort and preparation you’ve put into the interview by not preparing questions for the hiring manager.
Solution: Instead, ask thoughtful, impact-oriented ones that reflect your curiosity and commitment.
Examples:
Why it hurts: This one is also related to being able to read the room, but if you’re still not proficient at it, better safe than sorry. Slang, cursing, or constant fillers (“like,” “um,” “you know”) dilute your professionalism.
Solution: As most of the time these are the result of your nervousness, more than sample sentences or scripted responses, you need to slow down on your speech and take brief pauses; this will keep you from filler words. On top of this, answering questions aloud before interviews will allow you to catch and prevent these habits.
Why it hurts: Sharing what’s important to you, whether personally or professionally, can have value, but overexpressing areas about your family or private life can be a deterrent. Unless you’re asked and it’s directly relevant to the role, avoid diving too deep into personal details, as they may burn time or distract from the aspects that matter.
Solution: Focus on professional skills and experiences, or tie your anecdotes, hobbies, and personality to business outcomes or the interviewer’s expectations for your profile.
Example: “Outside work, I mentor students in analytics; that experience taught me to explain complex findings simply, which helps with stakeholder buy-in.”
If you naturally lean toward the “what not to say” side or struggle to deliver compelling answers during interviews, try the following “green-flag” patterns to pivot into positive, professional responding and communicate like a pro:
In practice, this means replacing generic claims with specific, situational evidence and questions that show you’ve done your homework.
Drawing from our recruiter’s insight and combined years of experience helping candidates with interviews, here are some extra best practices that make a difference when applied consistently.
Interviews are about more than just skills—they’re about how you present yourself through words. Avoiding certain phrases and replacing them with thoughtful, professional responses can dramatically improve your chances of securing a job offer.
Remember:
Preparation, professionalism, and emotional awareness will always set you apart. Even if you make mistakes (we all do), treat them as practice for the next opportunity. Every interview is a chance to refine your message and get closer to the role you want.
Arriving late, speaking negatively about past employers, exhibiting negative body language, unappropiate dressing, lack of previous research, or using casual language can immediately damage your credibility and make it harder to recover.
First, acknowledge your emotions, question the value of the experience, and turn setbacks intro growth stories. Share what you learned, how you improved, and why those lessons make you stronger for this role.
Acknowledge the question respectfully and state that you’d prefer to shift focus on what you’ve learned, your strenghts, relevant achievements, and how your skills align with this new opportunity to keep the conversation positive.
Yes, especially if you frame them as areas you’re actively improving. Pair your weakness with an example of progress or a skill that balances it.
Stay calm and take a moment to organize your thoughts; then, clarify your answer briefly, and redirect the attention to your qualifications. Handling mistakes with composure can actually impress interviewers.
If the interviewer interrupts, seems to be restless or bored, loses eye contact, stops taking notes or you feel yourself rambling around, it’s a sign you may be talking too much and it’s time to wrap up your answer and keep it concise.
During a job interview, body language plays a essential role as it reinforces your words and showcases confidence, professionalism, and interest. Confident posture, steady eye contact, and a calm smile can make your answers more convincing.
Yes, but cautiously. Gauge the interviewer’s tone first and if they’re serious, it’s better to keep it professional.
Contributed by Luis Arellano
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